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The game is an interesting ice breaker for the first date, helping to create the proper rapport between the complete strangers, pulling them out of their comfort zones to the unfamiliar territory, and instantly making them more comfortable together. Directions: Person A picks a word, any word. Person B responds with any word that he or she personally associates with the first word. This goes back and forth quickly, stopping when either person is curious about the association that the other person just made. You are getting to know the person really fast by seeing the reaction and association, and allowing to test the common interests, traits, and capabilities much faster and in depth, rather than in the course of the conventional conversation. Due to inability to make homework for each game turn, you may observe the person’s (and the show yours as well) unexpected sides and characteristics, helping to consider your compatibility in a fast a reliable matter. Warning: Try to be careful, ...

Warning:  You will both likely feel more present, playful, connected, and perhaps even turned-on after playing this game. Directions: Divide into pairs. Each member of the pair has a 7 minutes to ask for exactly what they want from their partner in the moment. Their partner has the option to either give it or say no. The asking partner keeps making requests until their time is up, and keeps asking for specifics until they get exactly what they want (provided the other person wants to give it). Take a few minutes to share what that was like, and then switch roles. Notes:  Requests can be physical, mental, or emotional, for example: “Would you give me a back rub?” “Would you tell me what you think about me?” “Would you ask me questions about myself?” Takeouts: 1. This game is not all about yes. Feel free to say no if the request does not seem to be comfortable for you. Do not think you have obligations to say yes all the time, and learn important skill not just to say no, but a...

Here is a great little game to help you communicate to the person on your first date or whenever you need assistance. It's simple, easy, in-the-moment, and you can play it with a friend, your lover, on a date, or with someone you've just met – anyone. Warning: You will both likely feel more present, playful, connected, and perhaps even turned-on after playing this game. Directions: Two people stand or sit directly across from each other, making eye contact. One person is A, and the other is B. A goes first.   A: What I notice when I'm with you is… B: Hearing that, what I'm noticing is… A: Hearing that, what I'm noticing is… B: Hearing that, what I'm noticing is… Go back and forth: “Hearing that, I notice… Hearing that, I notice…”. It could be 2 minutes or 20 minutes, it's up to you, but the most popular timing is approximately 5 minutes. You can share observations, thoughts, sensations, feelings, anything. Be open for laughter, tears, wonder, real communica...

I’m going to share a game with you. This game will reveal incredible things about whoever plays it; surprise, shock and delight complete strangers, and has kickstarted more friendships than I know how to count. Play along and you’ll see. Original Conditions I want you to imagine a desert, stretching out as far as your eyes can see. In this desert is a cube. Your first task is to describe the cube. What does it look like? How large is it? What is it made of? Where exactly is it? There are no right answers here, only your answers.  Take a moment before you continue – the detail is important. As you look at the desert and your cube, you notice there is also a ladder. Your second task (there are just five) is to describe the ladder. What is it made of? How big is it? Where is it, in relation to the cube? Now imagine that in the scene there is a horse. Your third task: describe the horse. Most importantly: where is the horse, and what is it doing? Where, if anywhere, is it going? We’re ...

What to wear, what to wear… it’s date night and you’re standing in front of your closet trying to make a decision. The clock is ticking and your mind is engaged in rapid-fire hypotheticals: “What if I wear my dark dressy jeans and that cream colored sweater?” “What about that shirt with the cute ruffles?”  “Is a button-down really not a dress shirt?” Caught in the fashion dilemma, we can turn to psychological research and gain insight into the choices we make, the process of deciding, and the impressions we create when we wear what we wear on date night. 1. Looking for love? Try red You know that song “Lady in Red”? Recent evidence suggests men have a powerful response to women wearing red, seeing them as more attractive and sexually desirable than if they wear other colors. The seductive effect of red has been documented for not only American men, but men from around the world suggesting it may be a global, culturally-universal phenomenon. Because red works its enchanting effects ...

Introduction Explore your personality with the highly respected Five Factor model (AKA the Big Five). You'll see how you stack up on 5 major dimensions of personality: Openness, Conscientiousness, Agreeableness, Extraversion, and Neuroticism. The Big Five model of personality is widely considered to be the most robust way to describe personality differences. It is the basis of most modern personality research. This 50-question inventory is based on questionnaires used in professional research settings and will evaluate your personality on each of the Five Factors. History The Big Five was originally derived in the 1970's by two independent research teams -- Paul Costa and Robert McCrae (at the National Institutes of Health), and Warren Norman (at the University of Michigan)/Lewis Goldberg (at the University of Oregon) -- who took slightly different routes at arriving at the same results: most human personality traits can be boiled down to five broad dimensions of personality, r...

What did you do for your sweetheart on Valentine ’s Day? How do you know if he or she truly loves your idea? Or did he or she just not want to hurt your feelings? Can you do better next year? How to speak with your partner in a language he or she understands the best? How to make your partner and yourself the happy as you can be? Get your answers by inviting your partner to take the Love Language Quiz! The 60-second Quiz Questions For each pair of following statements, circle the one that fits you best your personal preferences within your current relationship. If you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated, if you were in relationship of your dream. Or, think about how you like to be treated by a family members and a close friend you value most. Do not spend much time on thinking over and over the same questions, if you cannot decide on spot which statement fits you better, try to use spontaneous and intuitive approach, choosing the respons...